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On Handling Unpleasant Emotions

Photo by Pixabay Something I wish I had known earlier: When you're stressed and you sit with your emotions, simply allowing them and resisting the urge to push them aside by drinking alcohol, doomscrolling, stress-eating, and the like, your brain eventually gets tired of running the usual doom-and-gloom scripts. You let go, reach some sort of flow state, and then you just know what to do about the situation, or at least know what the best next step to take would be. If you're only beginning to practice this, it feels counterintuitive. You will feel restless. Your mind will be screaming, "Why the fuck are you just sitting there doing nothing when we have something urgent?!" The unpleasant emotions will be magnified and it will be hella painful. But if you just stay with it and resist the urge to numb the pain, clarity will eventually wash over you. Insights will come flooding in that will make you think, "Oh my god, why didn't this occur to me before?" Th...
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Modern Science in Ancient Teachings: How Buddhism and Psychology Work in Harmony

This is my final paper for Buddhism and Modern Psychology ! I got a good grade on it as well. ☺ Does modern science lend support to the Buddhist ideas about the human mind? The specific topic that comes to mind for this would be the Buddhist idea of   anatta , or the not-self. In the video lecture named “the Buddha’s Discourse on the Not-Self,” we learned that the Buddha does not consider the five aggregates – consciousness, form, feeling, perception, mental formations – to be self because they lack the two attributes that he believes the self should have, namely permanence and control. The modular theory of mind and the idea that what we call “self” may be more of a press secretary than the CEO supports the Buddha’s teachings on   anatta . We can recall that in Week 3, we learned that modern psychology professes that there is no single self that decides how you should behave. Instead, mental modules do this. The modules grow stronger the more attention is paid to them and the...

Making Peace with Impermanence: My Own Journey with Duhkha

Note: This is the midterm essay I submitted for Buddhism and Modern Psychology . I got a good grade on it and am quite proud of my work, so I am posting it here. This course is available for free on Coursera . It is offered by Princeton with Robert Wright as the lecturer. The Four Noble Truths can be summed up as the following: Life is suffering. The cause of suffering is craving for and clinging to that which is impermanent. For one’s suffering to cease, one has to let go of the craving or clinging. For one to let go of the craving or clinging, one must practice the Noble Eightfold Path. This may sound simplistic to many because evolution has shaped us into creatures that depend on the pursuit of short-lived pleasure for survival of both the individual and the species. Nevertheless, I find this doctrine to be a good guideline on how to stay sane while alive, especially when fulfilling responsibilities and meeting expectations as a fully-grown human being. I personally cannot attest to...

How Influenceable Are We?

Interesting tidbit from a video lecture from the Buddhism and Modern Psychology course I am taking on Coursera right now: Exposure to frightening stimuli predisposes us to see something neutral as threatening. In one study, subjects were made to watch an excerpt from Silence of the Lambs , and then shown photos of men from different foreign ethnic groups. Compared to the control group, these people were more likely to perceive the expressions on the faces of the ethnic men in the photos as menacing. The lecturer, Robert Wright, explains this as the human evolutionary adaptation for survival. Fear makes us more cautious for the sake of self-preservation. Of course, this makes a helluva lot of sense. Put in the context of our modern-day reality, though, we see that we have a lot of unnecessary frightening or stressful stimuli. We are also quite stressed and unhappy with our day-to-day lives. I think we can safely connect the dots here. So, really, how influenceable (sorry if this word do...